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A 2004 study found that conditional parental approval can secure compliance while leaving young people driven by pressure, resentment, and unstable self-worth even when the behavior looks successful
18+ hour, 44+ min ago (795+ words) In 1994, Edward Deci and Richard Ryan showed that when a parent's warmth becomes contingent on performance, children quietly swap their own preferences for whatever keeps the peace — and the trade often holds for decades. Parental approval can change a young…...
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3+ mon, 2+ week ago (31+ words) Research suggests the 1960s and 70s produced adults who could self-soothe, entertain themselves, and tolerate boredom - not because their parents were wise but because their parents were simply elsewhere Silicon Canals...
Psychology says the 1960s and 70s accidentally produced one of the most emotionally durable generations in modern history — not through better parenting but through benign neglect that forced children to develop internal regulation instead of waiting for adult intervention
3+ mon, 2+ week ago (1029+ words) I grew up in the 70s, and let me tell you something—we were basically feral children with house keys. My mother would shove us out the door after breakfast and tell us not to come back until the streetlights came…...
I drove six hours to visit my aging parents last month and within twenty minutes my mother had criticized my weight, my career, and my parenting — and I realized the little girl in me is still waiting for approval that will never come
3+ mon, 3+ week ago (1119+ words) There’s something about walking through your parents’ front door that can shrink you back to the size of a ten-year-old in about thirty seconds flat. It doesn’t matter how old you are, how much you’ve accomplished, or how many times you’ve…...
You know you've raised your kids right when they do these 7 things as adults without you asking
6+ mon, 1+ week ago (1273+ words) Every Sunday morning when I call my mother, our conversation inevitably drifts to her former students. She’ll mention running into someone at the grocery store or getting a LinkedIn message from a kid she counseled years ago. What strikes me…...