Apr 15, 2018 5:03 AM - 3 months, 3 days, 3 hours, 32 minutes, 4 seconds ago
‘My partner’s ex assumes we will care for her new baby’
A MUM has been left perplexed by a request for her partner’s ex to look after her new baby. And no, he is not the father.
My partner's ex expects us to look after her new baby. Source: iStock
IN the age of the modern family, it’s not uncommon for separated parents to share custody of their children, with new partners or step parents added to the mix.
But one woman was left confused when her partner’s ex assumed he would care for her new baby — which isn’t even his.
The woman, who uses the internet username CupofFrothyCoffee, posted about her dilemma on popular parenting forum Mumsnet.
“DP [Darling Partner] has been split from his ex for years, they have two [darling children] together who we have for weekends and holidays, they are 11 and nine,” she wrote.
“DP and I don’t have any children together and don’t want any more. I have one DC from a previous marriage, aged eight. His ex met her new partner about a year ago and is now pregnant, due next month. She works full-time as does her partner.
“When she told my DP about the new baby, she said ‘obviously we might need some help with childcare, it’d be much appreciated’. DP thought she was joking and said ‘Oh our baby days are long gone but congratulations,’ and she said “Oh but you’ll be having X and Y anyway so ...” and it was left at that, as DP was a bit stunned and speechless.
“Now, that is strange isn’t it? Of course this is not an option is it? It’s cheeky isn’t it? I know she doesn’t mean every time we have the older two kids but I think she thinks if she’s stuck we can take new baby. AIBU [am I being unreasonable] to think it’s a bit weird?”
Quite the dilemma
Now look, I’m not one to judge other women here, especially a heavily pregnant one who is working full-time and staring down the barrel of life with three children ... but it is a bit weird, isn’t it? Why would your ex look after your new baby that you’ve had with another man?
Then again ... siblings are siblings, and shouldn’t they be all kept together?
Other users on Mumsnet seemed similarly divided in opinion, though many thought she was being cheeky with her assumption.
“She’s got cheek”
“Make sure your DP tells her loud and clear that the baby is not part of any weekend childcare arrangement,” a woman writing under the name HolyMountain said.
“She’s absolutely not thinking straight ...
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